I don't like change it seems...

[baasheep]

It came out of the blue. A former co-worker of mine who I look up to enormously and had a bit of a girl crush on when we worked together sent me an email. She asked about my christmas my new year and how my Dad was doing. Then she dropped the bombshell "I had a bit of a dry one cos guess what, I'm preggers!" My jaw dropped and I spent a good minute or so staring at the screen before I replied. You see she was always the one I looked up to as a singleton. Even when she got with her boyfriend and moved in with him she always retained that streak of independance, that hey why don't we try this salsa club it starts tonight at 8 in an email sent at 5 type of thing. I'm afraid she'll lose that and like so many of my friends who have met the one and/or have a baby have less and less time for her friends aka me. Sigh it's selfish I know the baby and their spouse should of course be their main priority. However it's tough out there as a singleton and my friendships really matter to me perhaps they are not reciprocated as I would hope but I am trying to understand and accept this.

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[cyros.livejournal.com]

That is so sad :( I would think by a year, the crazy chaos stage would be over and assuming everyone had kept in touch periodically, things could go back to normal? I didn't have local friends, but I assume that is what would have happened.

[baasheep.livejournal.com]

Its happened like that for one or two of my friends where a bit of gentle prodding will result in them being sociable and leaving their baby/toddlers for a few hours or I will go over to them. A few on the other hand who I thought were close friends have pretty much said I'll be doing x at y time, I should be able to fit you in then. That pisses me off the "fitting me in" instead of making time for me like I make time for them yanno..